Tokophobia

Is it normal to be terrified of pregnancy or childbirth?

For some women, the thought of pregnancy or giving birth brings a fear so strong it shapes their decisions, relationships and sense of what's possible. If that's you, there's a name for it and you are not alone.

What is tokophobia?

Tokophobia is an anxiety-based condition in which a woman has a significant fear of pregnancy and/or childbirth. It's often poorly recognised and treated by professionals, which can leave women feeling dismissed.

What's the difference between primary and secondary tokophobia?

Primary tokophobia affects women who have never given birth. She may dread pregnancy and labour because of stories she's heard about difficult births, a programme that portrays childbirth as dangerous or shameful, or, sometimes, past sexual abuse.

Secondary tokophobia follows a pregnancy or birth that was traumatic. It can also follow a stillbirth, miscarriage or termination.

What if I do get pregnant?

Most women who overcome their fear enough to become pregnant will insist on an elective caesarean, because the fear of labour pain can be overwhelming. That fear may stem from a previous complicated delivery or inadequate pain relief.

Can this phobia be treated?

Yes. There are highly effective techniques that can resolve the symptoms of a phobia of pregnancy. The programme I offer works by changing how you think. You learn to understand and take control of your thoughts, beliefs and emotions, so it becomes possible to change how you think and feel about yourself. Almost all problems are shaped by how we think, and what has been learned can be changed.

Can we work online?

Yes. Sessions run via Zoom, FaceTime, WhatsApp or Messenger from anywhere in the world. All you need is a phone, tablet or computer, a good internet connection and some privacy.

How do I get started?

Email me or call 0409 254 500 to arrange a free, no-obligation consultation or an online chat. We can talk through your options, and you'll get clear answers to any questions you have.

I had been struggling unsuccessfully with tokophobia for over 1.5 years before finding Liz, and had quite honestly lost hope that anyone would be able to help me. In two sessions, Liz helped me significantly reduce my tokophobia to the point where it is no longer a driving influence on whether or not I would choose to have kids in the future. Liz is a supportive, cheerful, and talented therapist who truly wants the best for each of her patients, and I would highly recommend her services.

-AB