Shyness. Social phobia. Social anxiety. So what is it?
Well, according to research by the NIMH it's the third largest psychological problem in the world today. At least you're not alone!
A phobia is basically a fear. All of us can have fears and may get anxious before meeting new people but once we're there we settle down quickly, coping and, if it's not too boring, having fun! For others, however, these situations create huge amounts of fear and anxiety - in many cases these people need loads of alcohol or perhaps they just decide not to go out at all. This has a terrible effect on their lives (as well as them missing some great parties because they're either too drunk or not there at all!) and in severe cases they can completely withdraw from society and life itself.
A social phobic will worry continuously about how others see them and what others think about them. They have a terrible fear of being judged, humiliated or embarrassed when exposed to possible scrutiny by others. Even though deep down they know it's not true, people with social phobia feel that everyone is watching, staring and judging them. Not much fun, right?
Some of the social phobia or anxiety symptoms are:
Feeling panicky at the thought of becoming the centre of attention when you're with other people
Feeling as though everybody is looking at you and noticing what you're doing
Not wanting to go into shops or restaurants, especially if you're alone
Being afraid to perform in front of others in case you make an idiot of yourself, eg a job interview, a meeting or public speaking
Having a tremendous fear of 'being put on the spot'
Stuttering or stammering
Having a pre-occupation with how you look - it's never good enough, is it?
Fear of failure or not being good enough
Blushing, or a fear of blushing
Lack of confidence - self esteem issues
Fearful of writing in front of others
Working too hard to please others
Shy bladder (men) – not being able to pee when on the spot
Performance anxiety when having sex
Feeling anxious when making phone calls
Fear of being humiliated
Feeling fearful when eating in front of people
So... is there a shyness treatment?
Yes! The good news is the treatment for shyness is very effective. Wouldn't you like to feel comfortable in social situations rather than dreading that next invitation and trying to come up with yet another excuse as to why you can't go? Or knowing that you won't get that promotion at work because you're just too shy and the interview will be a total disaster? The programme I offer can help you to regain control of your thoughts, feelings and life and the results you achieve with this programme will be here to stay!
I have successfully conducted many sessions via Skype so regardless of where you are in the world I can help you. All you need is an iPad, laptop or PC, a good internet connection, a Skype account (it’s free) and some privacy. Skype can be downloaded for a PC or Mac by clicking on the Skype logo immediately below or, if you have an iPad, going to iTunes and downloading the app. Sessions can also be conducted via FaceTime or Messenger.
If you would like to finally feel in control, calm and peaceful in your thoughts, please either email or call me on 0409 254 500 and we can arrange for you to come in for a free no obligation consultation or a chat via Skype. We can discuss your options and you will be able to get clear answers on any questions you may have. There is no obligation on either your part or mine.