Frigidity

Why has my interest in sex disappeared?

Maybe it faded slowly. Maybe it seemed to switch off overnight. Either way, you've noticed that closeness has started to feel like pressure instead of pleasure, and you're worried about what that says about you or your relationship.

You're far from alone. Low libido affects men and women, and because it's so personal, many people struggle in silence.

What counts as low libido?

It's a reduced interest in sex, intimacy or physical closeness that feels different from what's normal for you. You might notice:

•      Little or no interest in sex

•      Avoiding closeness or touch

•      Hoping your partner won't start anything

•      Feeling emotionally disconnected, or anxious about sexual contact

•      Guilt, sadness or frustration about the change

•      Fear of letting your partner down

"What's wrong with me?"

"Why don't I feel interested anymore?"

"I love my partner, so why don't I want intimacy?"

How does it affect a relationship?

Partners can feel rejected, confused or shut out. Arguments flare more easily, or the subject becomes too sensitive to raise at all, and over time emotional closeness can suffer. You may feel stuck between wanting things to improve and not knowing how.

What causes loss of desire?

Rarely one thing. It's usually a blend of emotional, psychological, physical and relationship factors, including stress or overwhelm, anxiety or depression, relationship difficulties, performance anxiety, low confidence, hormonal changes, emotional exhaustion, past experiences, or a fear of intimacy and vulnerability. Sometimes anxiety or pressure has quietly taken over without you realising.

Low libido is not a personal failure, and it doesn't mean something is "wrong" with you.

What if intimacy has started to feel frightening?

For some people low desire gradually turns into dread. Bedtime becomes something to get through, and affection feels risky in case it leads to expectations. That can be lonely, particularly if you miss how things used to feel. The good news is that it can change.

How can therapy help?

I help people gently understand what's contributing to reduced desire or anxiety around intimacy, exploring the emotional patterns, worries and stresses that keep things stuck. The aim isn't to "fix" a symptom. It's to help you feel calmer, more connected and more comfortable within yourself and your relationship, whether this is recent or years old.

Is it confidential?

Completely. Sexual problems are hard to ask for help with, yet they're surprisingly common, and I promise your concerns will be handled with great sensitivity.

How do we get started?

Sessions run online via FaceTime, Messenger, WhatsApp or Zoom, from anywhere. Email me or call 0409 254 500 for a free, no-obligation consultation where you can ask anything you like.